These are strange days. It seems to me that dating advice can be very contradictory. Sometimes they say that women should never pursue men, then others say that they should. Still, some advice encourages people to flirt, flirt, flirt. What if I don't want to be a flirt? Am I doomed? I have a female friend that loves to play these games and the men are tripping all over her. Really? Is that what it takes? I don't want to live that way. That's exhausting. Besides, I don't want that many men all over me. I just want one good one.
It seems that today's dynamic is changing too. There was a time when men woo'd women, but now women put it "all" out there. Why go after the one that's "holding out" when you have 2 or 3 that are serving "it" up on a silver platter?
Oh, the best part is my male friend that says he loves "projects" or "broken wings". Women with problems in need of saving. What???? So, now I have to be a train wreck too?
Does anyone else notice how strange the dating world is? I hate to complain because I really want to think that there's hope, and I know there is, but it's not getting any easier.

Your post reminds me of a crass - but very true - statement a friend made to me during my days of game ignorant bliss -- as a young grasshopper I said something to the effect of,"You know, I hate all this pick-up bullsh*t. Women should love me for the real me." His response was something to the effect of,"Dude ... the real you isn't getting laid ..." Ouch.

Does that mean you have to be fake or play games to get a date? No, but it does mean you have to be willing to dance - the seduction dance specifically. I mean you can be some boring person who says,"Hey! Here I am! Take me or leave me!" or you can be that person that people love to be around who is clever, fun, and knows how to taunt and tease in a FUN way.

Also - and this is directed towards the wider audience, not just you so please don't take this personally - at the end of the day if you aren't doing a good job of attracting the opposite sex, you probably aren't doing a great job of attracting people in general. So forget dating, are you the type of person people want to be around? If not, what's the harm in learning social skills in order to have a more fun life???

Think about it ...

With warm regards,
TIM